Marriage is always compared to shoes, saying : whether the shoes fit well or not, it is only the feet that would feel them. It seems like when we choose our shoes, we are more looking for something that fits just right. But things are not that simple, as we might all have experienced that wearing the same shoes in the morning and the afternoon, our toes could feel the difference, not to mention those whose feet might all at a sudden become bigger or smaller due to physiological turgidity on an special period. Changes might be little, but toes hurt if shoes are too small and tight.
Some choose the fixed size of the present; some think shoes will be getting bigger while they were being wore, they would rather suffer first in order to find something that would be right for the future. There was this "mean" someone, he has always been playing something by ear when buying shoes. He never chooses anything that might possibly squeeze his toes, but pick out special time for shoes selection- the the noon time or when his feet walk tired.That is why his shoes are never too tight and this is the princeple he sticks to: rather big than small, no squeezing. Talking about finding the right men or the other half, this princeple applies to me too: only to find someone that is to your standard, but not to the public's standard. In addition, for those who seem to match well for present and the future, they are not the main consideration; I am only concerned on whether I feel comfortable with him all the time-relexed now, and still comfortable when it might be getting a bit tight. They are good shoes, right men!
To ladies, men are like your shoes; to men, ladies are like men's shoes! Being the shoes, some ladies might plan to have them one size smaller, which aims to make the big dirty feet fit in with this small shoes. Women tend to illuse that it would be easier to build up splendid life under strict and impartial rules. However, when shoes are too tight, men confront, as they feel the pain by wearing these tight shoes and blood pickles,chrysalis,helosis might turn up endlessly. Even at the very end, big feet might have to give in to the small shoes, shoes would also have to adjust themselves; only when it is mutual understandings could one-size-smaller shoes achieve compromise.
Some women take the veiw that if marriage are like shoes, one size bigger, it will get laggard. They always say, to manage a family, without certain rules, sluggish situation will follow on and men will be too relaxed and then unconstrained at all. Well, people thinking in this way may indicate that they are used to self-abuse and the habit of forcing others. They do not understand marriage is about mutual recognition, mutual acceptance and patience, but not take it for granted to restrict the other one. Temper was born of; natural disposition was congential; it is hard to change the feet, but just so easy to change to another pair of shoes.
Therefore, if trying so hard to figure out how to change the other one in our life, why not lower the standard a little bit-relexed, then relexed, and you will find he/she is the one that makes you most relexed all the time, no matter it is physiological turgidity or special period.